Geoff Barlow is a former Biology Teacher, sex coach, writer, certified Neuro Linguistic Programmer and public speaker and is available for short notice Radio and TV interviews.

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Typical Press questions and answers:

1. What’s the EROS Technique?
It’s a set of lovemaking methodologies that any man can use to give his woman many orgasms or multiple orgasms and have more fun himself.

2. It sounds like a lot of effort for the man
No, far from it. It’s actually an approach that requires minimal effort from the man. In many ways the woman does most of the work!

3. What’s Penetrative Foreplay?
I’m proposing this as a third form of lovemaking. It sits between what is traditionally described as Foreplay and Sex. The idea is the man penetrates the woman but keeps on with the foreplay. So the man holds back, and doesn’t thrust. It’s an entirely different way of Lovemaking. It’s not just a word. During Penetrative Foreplay the man puts the woman in a “Sensual Trance” and then he fires “Orgasmic Triggers”

4. Why do you use the term Penetrative Foreplay?
Because I’m asking men to change their attitude towards sex, and the word “foreplay” has associations for the man, like holding back, and the man doing foreplay to get the woman aroused. He’s holding back while she gets more and more aroused – that’s the association I want to create: it’s penetration but with foreplay.

As Science Officer Spock probably never said to Captain Kirk in Star Trek: “It’s sex, Jim, but not as we know it”

5. Isn’t this performance oriented sex?
No the accent is on pleasure oriented sex. Precisely the opposite. Funnily enough though, when the man focuses on pleasure oriented sex it gives his woman lots of orgasms.

6. Aren’t you taking the mystery out of sex?
If it’s mystery why some men only take a couple minutes or less, and if it’s mystery why woman only have one orgasm, when they could be having lots more, I think those are mysteries that should be solved.

7. Do you think it’s right to set an expectation that women can have 20 or more orgasms?
Women could view it as a possibility rather than an expectation. EROS is just a methodology, like a methodology for teaching a non driver how to drive a car. Everyone starts as a non-driver, yet people do learn to drive. If one person can be taught to drive, so can anyone else. If some men can give women 20 orgasms, why can’t that methodology be taught to other men?

It’s easier than learning to drive in fact. Maybe not all women in the world CAN have 20 orgasms, but it would be a lot of fun for them finding out how many they could have, wouldn’t it?

8. Aren’t you appealing to a tiny minority of people?
I’m appealing to any man who wants to have more fun, last longer and wants to give his woman lots of orgasms. I’m appealing to any woman who wants to experience something fabulous with the man in her life. I don’t know how big that minority is.

I’m appealing to any woman making a list of “10 things to experience before I die”. Well, for a woman, having 20 orgasms at one time might be high on that list – to experience that just once in her life - or maybe more than once in her life, if that were possible.

9. There’s so much info out there; what’s different about your information?
It’s a structured methodology. I don’t see anything out there that says to men that if you do these sorts of things in this order you will give her lots of orgasms. I don’t see anything out there that says – do these things and she will have a multiple orgasm.

It’s a methodology that’s repeatable. What I’ve done is to identify those verbal and physical actions that trigger an orgasm. I don’t see that out there. I’m giving men, for the first time a kind of recipe, like a TV celebrity chef, only on a different subject. But what I’m also saying is “hey you can use different ingredients in different ways to see what gives the best results”. Much of what I’m talking about is entirely new: the “Freeze”, Physical Orgasmic Triggers, the Three types of Verbal Orgasmic Triggers, the O Switch, Penetrative Foreplay, Sensual Trance, plus I’ve put these together with things people do know, but probably haven’t assembled into a “recipe” before.

10. What’s been the reaction of men and women to your information?
Really positive. When I talk to couples typically the woman takes half a step forward and the guys have this alarmed look on their face, and maybe take half a step back. But after a minute or two the guys are really positive and interested. Once that initial taboo reaction is out of the way people are absolutely fascinated and want to know more.

11. You say this information transforms lives, how?
It’s a huge leap forward in the quality of sex that people can have, for some it’s a huge leap forward in the quantity of sex – like men lasting much longer and women having many orgasms. But it’s also a huge leap forward based on sensuality, this approach works because it hugely increases the sensuality and eroticism of lovemaking.

All the extra orgasms derive from the fact that’s it’s a much more sensual, erotic approach. One guy I taught the Freeze in about 2 minutes flat is having a wonderful time; it’s transformed his life apparently. One woman emailed me to say following one of my talks her partner was able to give her Multiple Orgasms, something she’d never experienced before.

Once people are educated on the possibilities it gives them choices, and having great choices transforms lives.

12. What does your girlfriend think of this?
She’s very supportive. There’s an interesting question that you didn’t ask. You see there’s still lots of taboo around lovemaking, probably people want to ask “OK Geoff can you do this? Can you give your girlfriend 20 orgasms or more” But taboo prevents us from getting that personal.

13. Ok Geoff, can you give your girlfriend 20 orgasms or more?
More.

14. What are Orgasmic Triggers?
These are any Verbal or Physical events that trigger an orgasm. Imagine runners at the start of a race. Someone fires a starting pistol. What made the pistol go bang? It was the Marshall holding the starting gun squeezing their finger on the trigger. So what is it exactly that triggers a woman into having an orgasm? That physical or verbal cue, whatever it is, is an Orgasmic Trigger.

15. Don’t we already know all this stuff?
I don’t think we do. Going back to my cooking analogy I think most people know a few of the ingredients, but they don’t have a complete set of all the ingredients and they only have a limited recipe. That’s what makes the TV chefs unique, they can take a set of ingredients and put it together in such a way that it tastes wonderful.

Tell any man the ingredients and give him a simple recipe to follow and he can prepare a meal pretty much indistinguishable from a TV chef. They’re called recipes. This is likewise a very flexible set of recipes.

16. What’s unique about your information?
It’s a methodology or set of methodologies and that hasn’t existed before. It’s a repeatable strategy. The Freeze is unique; I’ve not seen that anywhere else, The Freeze is probably the most powerful Orgasmic Triggers. The O Switch is unique. The concept of a Sensual Trance is unique. Identifying both Verbal and Physical triggers is unique.

Mixing together different orgasmic triggers into a “cocktail” is unique. It brings together all those mysterious elements that can drive a woman into ecstasy, and puts that information and that methodology in the hands of her man.

17. What are your goals?
To get these messages to millions of people worldwide via the internet, my DVDs and my seminars.


18. Why did you create Lovemaking forum?
I wanted to give people the basic information free of charge and Lovemakingforum is an ideal mechanism. Also it’s about men sharing information, so a Forum provides a vehicle for other men to contribute about what works for them.

19. Can you give us an example of a Verbal Trigger and a Physical Trigger?
Yes, but bear in mind that these triggers only work when the woman is highly aroused. Fire these while she’s shopping in the supermarket and the man will probably get an entirely different reaction.

The most powerful Physical Trigger is the “Freeze” where a man thrusts in and holds quite still, tensing his muscles and counting slowly to 5.

There are three types of Verbal Orgasmic Trigger: Romantic, Descriptive or Crude. An example of a descriptive trigger would be the man saying in her ear “I’m so hard inside you”. Either of these triggers could trip her into orgasm, if she’s very aroused.

20. You talk about Sensual Trance – is this a form of hypnotism?
Not really. Anyone who’s had a wonderful massage, like a head massage, knows that feeling of total relaxation and being at peace – well it’s like that, but with sex mixed in. It’s deep, sensual, erotic relaxation rather than hypnotism.

21. You say you’re an NLP practitioner – what’s NLP?
Neuro Linguistic Programming is a way of thinking and talking that changes your perception of the world; and your view of yourself. All of us use NLP all the time but we don’t think about it like that “I’m useless at Maths” is a classical bit of NLP or “I can’t do that”.

Instead you could say "I'm sure I'll understand it if I can someone to explain it to me." We have the power to reshape our view of ourselves, and to reshape our view of the world. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a very similar approach.


22. How does NLP relate to your key messages?
As an example the term “Penetrative Foreplay” is really deliberate. It encourages men to think of foreplay and the “holding back” element of foreplay. With Foreplay the man is thinking of the woman, so Penetrative Foreplay is for her. The “O Switch” is an NLP technique whereby a man creates an internal switch to delay his need to climax

23. Who do you think your messages most appeal to?
Heterosexual couples, single men wanting to be come “SuperLovers”, older couples wanting to rediscover passion and sensuality, women wanting to have multiple orgasms, teenage boys wanting to know “how you do it”, just about any heterosexual person really!

24. Who is your target audience?
Women who want to educate and inspire their man and men who want to become “SuperLovers”.

25. How do you know it works?
It’s based on my experience and research I’ve conducted. And people I’ve taught it to tell me verbally and via email that it’s really worked for them.

26. How long have you been doing this?
My first seminar was in May 2006, so around two and half years.

27. Where can people see you / hear you?
Check out the website. I’m setting up evening seminars in London, and also romantic weekends for couples in the South of England.

28. Where do you see yourself in 2 years time?
A well known UK and US media personality I hope. With media visibility I can reach more people with my messages, and help more people worldwide.

29. What makes you special when there’s so much advice out there?
Firstly I’m a bloke, and there are very few men advisors out there, most of them are women. Secondly I give live seminars on this, so that’s pretty unusual. Thirdly this is a set of unique methodologies that are relatively easy to understand and apply.

30. You talk about a methodology – it makes it sound very mechanical. Shouldn’t sex be spontaneous?
Dancing looks spontaneous when you see a really good Salsa dancer, for example. But that dancer has been taught and learnt each movement in detail, and then they’ve practiced, practiced, practiced.

It looks spontaneous but it’s been learnt step by step until the dancer puts together a series of integrated flowing moves. That’s the ultimate and with the EROS technique, its flowing, sensuous lovemaking rather than Salsa dancing.

It’s like playing the piano – that seems spontaneous but that pianist has learnt in stages, over a period of time and practised until they became fluent.

31. So what are you hoping the website will achieve?
Reach millions of people and help them. I’m hoping that the free-of-charge information can help everyone who can’t attend my seminars. People can buy my DVDs via the website and other sources.

32. Do you offer personal coaching?
Yes, but in-classroom coaching not in-bedroom coaching.

33. Do you offer on call service to people with problems?
That’s not really my field. I’m a coach, not a counsellor, medical professional or therapist.

34. How does this information help women?
It helps women by making them aware of the possibilities. Also it gives them information that they can pass to their man

35. Isn’t there a danger you can set expectations that a man can’t reach?
I guess that’s possible but it’s not difficult to get this stuff. I’ve taught the Freeze to a Pub Doorman in about two minutes. Learning to drive or learning a musical instrument is much more difficult than these methodologies.

Having said that people do have different sex drives. These methodologies won’t help a highly sexed man with a women who’s not very interested in sex; likewise it probably won’t help a highly sexed woman living with a sexually disinterested man.

36. How much is the seminar?
The evening seminar is less than £20 and the weekend Romantic weekend is £145 a couple. Not much when you consider this information can transform someone’s sex life. I reckon if a woman got only one multiple orgasm out of this, it would be worth it. But actually she could get that every night, assuming that was what she and her man wanted.

37. How do people know it’ll work for them?
No-one can know anything for sure unless they try it, whether that’s learning to dance, learning to drive or learning the EROS Technique. So I have a full money-back guarantee. If these methodologies don’t improve someone’s sex life I’ll give them their money back.

All they have to do is email me or call and say “it didn’t work for me” and I’ll reimburse them. Let’s face it, not too many retailers offer “fantastic sex or your money back” do they? Perhaps that offer would rekindle some activity in the high street though!

38. Where else do you appear in magazines and the media?
Watch this space.

39. Do you have medical qualifications?
No, but then I’m a coach not a counsellor or therapist. If someone has a medical problem they should see a doctor. If a tennis player has a bad elbow he'll see a doctor, if he needs to get more backhand returns in, he'll see a tennis coach not a doctor. Think about sex as a healthy pursuit like tennis, golf, or badminton. If you want to improve at any of those you see a coach. I'm a male coach for improving sexual technique. For what it's worth I'm a Science Graduate, I’ve a Postgraduate Teaching qualification from Keele University and I used to be a Biology Teacher.

40. What’s the difference between the EROS Technique and Tantric sex?
The similarities are that they’re both based on more relaxed sensual lovemaking. They’re both about sex as a loving, giving thing. EROS is a set of structured, repeatable steps, a set of methodologies, and that’s not the case for Tantric sex.

Tantric sex uses visualisations much more, such as visualising waves of energy connecting the man and woman through various energy points called Chakras – there’s none of that in EROS. You need to put a lot of time aside for Tantric sex whereas you can have a “quickie” with EROS taking about 20 minutes, start to finish.

Read More...

Better Sex with the EROS Technique DVD
Our Guide to Arousal, Foreplay and Giving her Multiple Orgasms



The Freeze
Give women orgasms, men last longer too


Orgasmic Triggers
Physical and Verbal events to fire her orgasms


Penetrative Foreplay
Put her in a "Sensual Trance"